This is only a short post, but something that I felt that I had to talk about as it has been bothering me somewhat lately. This subject is being ashamed of our bodies in front of our children.
I remember reading something (I can't remember where I read it) stating that children when children get to the age of one, they are more likely to remember things and imitate. In other words, sort out your potty mouth before they turn one. It also said that at this age it is a good idea to start covering yourself up at this point, as they might remember when they are older. So no more getting changed in front of them.
This idea has always stuck with me and now that my child is one, I find that it isn't settling too well with me. I understand where the idea comes from - our children might remember us in a lesser clothed state when they are older and this might cause them embarrassment. I get this, but still it just doesn't feel right. This child grew and developed within me and came out of my body and although breastfeeding was brief, we still did some. This child is a part of me, and the idea that I suddenly need to be ashamed of myself in front of him does not feel right. If I had breastfed for longer, I imagine that this would have felt even stranger (and might have been problematic had I still been breastfeeding now.)
So who's right? I admit I have been trying to be more careful; putting my baby in the playpen and getting changed in the bathroom in the morning rather than in the living room, although the latter is always easier. I don't want him to be embarrassed, especially when he is older. But I just can't shake the idea that feeling this way isn't right. Perhaps it is the angle that this sort of thing comes from. It is right to let our children know that their bodies are private and that they have a right to this privacy, but this should not be done through shame.
Please let me know your experiences with this and how you feel about it. I would love to get some opinions.